- I’m Not Good Enough
- Exodus 4, 1 Peter 2:9; 2 Corinthians 3:4-5
- Lyndol Loyd February 23, 2020
This morning we are going to look at a lie that plagues so many of us. It is the lie that “I’m simply not good enough.”
How many parents in the room have thought to themselves at one point or another, “I’m not a good enough dad. I’m not a good enough mom. No matter how hard I try, I feel inadequate.”?
How many spouses struggle with thinking, “I’m not a good enough husband. I’m not a good enough wife.”? Maybe it is in some other area of our life, but you tell yourself that your best will never be good enough. No matter how hard you try, it will never be good enough.
For all of you who have ever felt that way, I want to show you that some of the heroes of the faith even felt that way. One in particular that we’ll look at today is Moses from the Old Testament. Before we look at his story, let’s review the key concept we took on in this series, “A lie believed as truth will affect you as if it were true.”
One of our spiritual enemies’ greatest weapons is to lie to us. The father of lies tries to convince us that even though something is not true, if we will believe it, we’ll live and act on it as if it were true.
In Exodus 4, God Himself, called Moses to deliver God’s people from bondage. Listen how Moses felt the same way so many of us often feel. Moses said to the Lord, “Oh, Lord, I’ve never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I’m slow of speech and tongue.”
He’s saying, “Don’t put me in front of people. I wig out. I freeze. I get nervous. I’m not a good public speaker. Of all the other people out there, God, surely there are dozens who are more qualified than I am.” In other words, “God, I am not good enough.” So many of us believe this lie, and it affects us as if it were true because we base our worth wrongly on a couple of things.
So many of us believe the lie that our worth is, first of all, based on what other people say about us. Some of you grew up in a home where you got a lot of encouragement, and you felt good about yourself. Others of you, you grew up hearing, “You’re stupid,” and you believed it. “You’re no good,” and you believed it. “You’re pathetic. I wish you were more like your brother. You’re nothing like your sister.”
You heard that so often that you started thinking, “You know what, maybe I’m not that good. I wish I never had you.” On and on it goes. Some of you were told at one point, “You’d be so much prettier if you lost ten pounds,” and so you just thought, “Okay, I’m fat.” For the rest of your life, you felt like you were fat because of what others said about you.
If you’re like me, someone says something good, and you feel good about yourself. Someone cuts you down, and you feel like the biggest loser that’s ever lived. How many of you would say you often wrongly base your worth on what others say about you? Be honest.
Another common lie is we believe that our worth is based on our past experiences. For instance, you may have grown up in a challenging family, and you think, “I’ll never amount to anything. We didn’t have a lot,” or maybe you weren’t great in school, and so you believe, “I’m average. I made average grades. I’m average, so I’m going to have an average life.”
Maybe you had the dream of a great marriage, and as much as you wanted a great marriage, one day you ended up divorced. Now, you feel like you go through life with a big “D” on your forehead for everybody to see. People must be saying, “Failure! You couldn’t hold your marriage together. You’re not that good of a Christian. You’ve been divorced. That proves that you’re just not that good.”
Moses battled feelings of failure just like so many of us do. In verses 11-13, what’s interesting is God speaks truth to Moses, but his own sense of inadequacy was speaking even louder. Watch the dialogue. Exodus 4:11-13, “Then the Lord asked Moses, “Who makes a person’s mouth? Who decides whether people speak or do not speak, hear or do not hear, see or do not see? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go! I will be with you as you speak, and I will instruct you in what to say.”
You would think that Moses would say, “Okay, that settles it. “But Moses again pleaded, “Lord, please! Send anyone else.” In other words, “You don’t get it, God, I’m just not good enough. Please send someone else.”
So many of us, because we’ve wrongly believed that lie, have come to some dangerous conclusions about our life, “Since I’m not good enough, I can’t make a difference. Why even try? I’m always average. I fail at everything I do. I’m not good looking enough. I’m not talented enough. My body’s not right. I’m inadequate in every way. I’m really not even worthy to be loved, so why bother?” We believe we’re simply not good enough.
Please remember, you are not who others say you are, and you are not the sum total of your past experiences. You are who God says you are. But, let’s settle in. You are not the opinions of others. You are not what happened to you in the past. You are who God says that you are. Whenever the lie comes up, “You’re not good enough. You’re inadequate.” Replace it with truth. Those who are Christ-followers, when you come to Christ, your old nature dies. It’s gone. You have a new heart, and a new spirit. You are a new creation, but just because you are spiritually new, doesn’t mean that those old memories automatically go away. We are often still haunted by those negative tapes that continue to run in our mind. That’s why we need to capture those lies and let God’s truth renew our minds, so that we will start to believe what God says about us. When we believe what He says about us, then we can do what He calls us to do.
God says you are called by Christ. The Son of the living God is calling you. 1 Peter 5:10, “It is in God’s kindness that God called you to his eternal glory by means of Jesus Christ.” The Son of the living God, Christ Himself, the anointed One, the Savior of the world, is calling you. That little voice says, “You’re not good enough.” But you are so incredibly special that Jesus has you on His mind. You are worthy of His love. His heart beats for you. He cares for you. He came for you, and He’s calling you.
How many of you are tired right now, worn out? Jesus is saying specifically to you, “Come to me all who are weary and heavy laden and burdened and worn out. I’ll give you rest.”
Those of you who are searching, thinking, “There has to be more to life. I’m thirsty for something more.” Jesus is saying to you, “I am the living water. Taste what I offer, and you’ll never thirst again.”
Are you hungry for something different? “I am the bread of life.” You’re lost and wandering through life, and you can’t find your way. He says, “I am the way.” You believe the lies about yourself? He says, “I am the truth.” You feel like you are dead on the inside? He is the life, and He is the One who is calling you. Your spiritual cell phone is ringing right now. It is a call from Jesus saying, “I love you. I value you. I treasure you. Follow Me.”
Who are you in God’s eyes? Look at Scripture. 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.”
Do you think you are not good enough? Remind yourself that you are capable through Christ. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do everything through Christ.” You are capable through Christ, who gives you strength. Romans 8:37, “We are more than conquerors through Christ, who loved us.”
One of the greatest goals of your spiritual enemy is to talk you out of all that God has for you. “You’re not good enough. Your best is not going to get it done. Why bother trying? Give it up. Throw in the towel. You don’t have what it takes. You’re mediocre, you’re average. You’re simply not good enough.” No! You are capable through Christ.
So many people are trying to do things on their own strength, and they’re not getting it done. Gentlemen, you’re trying to please her. It’s impossible. She’s a moving target! You can’t do it. Christ, through you, though, can give you a marriage like you’ve never imagined, when you learn to die to self and serve her like Christ served the church.
Some of you are trying to get out of deb. You are financially messed up. You’re thinking, “I have to have more.” God says when you give more, you actually have more. You do it His way, you can get out of debt. Christ through you.
Some of you have somebody you love who you would give anything to see them come to Christ. You tried and you tried and you failed and you failed. You don’t have the ability. It’s just not going to work, but Christ through you can use you. He can give you the words to say, the wisdom, the timing, the discernment. Christ, through you, can do everything that God wants to be done.
Look at the power of the Scripture. 2 Corinthians 3:4-5, “We are confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ. 5 It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God.” It’s all about Christ. You are called by Christ. You are capable through Christ.
You are complete in Christ. In Christ, you are absolutely complete. 2 Peter 1:3 says, “God’s divine power has given you everything that you need.” In Christ, you have everything that you need. You are complete in Christ.
Look at it this way: How many of you have seen the old movie, “Jerry McGuire”? Tom Cruise comes into a room full of girls, and they all hate guys. He gives a speech to one of the girls, and at the end of the speech he drops the line, “You complete me.” All the girls cry, and she says, “You had me at hello.” It’s a good line but a bad application. People don’t complete you, Christ does. He forgot that you have to find the One to be complete in life. Jesus is the One. Your spouse is the Two. Things don’t complete us. “I have to have this thing to be happy. Need to have more to be fulfilled. I’ve got to have more money. Got to have a bank account. Got to have a nicer house. I’ve got to have a boat. Got to go on vacation. Got to have everything paid off before I can be happy.” No. Money, things, and people don’t complete you. Christ does.
What are you missing? Find it in Christ. Need peace? In Christ, you find a peace that the world doesn’t know anything about. Assurance? He is your assurance. Strength? His strength is made perfect in your weakness. Blessings? Eternal blessings far outweigh the things of this world. Comfort? In Christ we find comfort like a mother comforts her child.
Whenever you see the word “complete” used in the New Testament, most of the time it comes from a Greek word that refers to a ship that is fully manned. In other words, the ship has everything that is desired and needed to get to the next destination. Think of your life in terms of a fully manned ship. You’re the ship, and Jesus is the captain. He’ll make the wind blow in your sails whenever necessary. Everything that is needed to get you to where He wants you to go, He empowers in your ship. You are complete in Christ.
When the thoughts come, “You’re not good enough. You never measure up. Why try? You are completely inadequate.” Capture those thoughts. Make it obedient to Christ. “You don’t understand, Satan. Get behind me. God says I’m called by Christ. That’s how special I am, that He would come and die for me. I am capable through Christ. Whatever He calls me to do, I can accomplish. Not by my power, but by His, and I am complete in Christ, lacking no good thing. Everything that I need is in Christ.” Colossians 2:9-10, “For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. 10 So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.”